Until you resolve your past, you are not free to have a future
Understand that your relationship with yourself has a profound affect on every other relationship in your life. Every piece of you past that you still carry around with you obscures people's view of the real you.
Do whatever it takes to get proud of you
If you can't dance why would anyone want to dance with you? Stop feeling bad about the things you can't do, and focus on the things you can. Better yet, get a great teacher and learn something new.
Love yourself enough to take care of your own needs
What does it take to make you really happy, to feel cared for and cared about? You need to know. If you don't know, whom would you suggest I ask? Take the time to figure out what it is about things or people that make you truly happy.
Understand you are not responsible for fulfilling the needs of others
There is a tendency for us to go through our lives busily doing whatever it takes to make the people around us happy in the vain hope it will win us more love and maybe even ensure that they never abandon us. This is hugely draining and largely unrewarding.
Recognize and respect that you simply cannot change other people
Stop wasting your energy trying to change others, and change yourself if you're not happy with the situation. Understand that both of you are probably stuck in the fantasy that life would be so much easier if your partner was just a little more like you.
Understand that people are always doing their very best in life
When everything is taken into account everyone is always doing his or her very best in life. Rarely does anyone set out to deliberately upset you or ruin your day. This is also true of you. When you feel hurt or disappointed by other people, it's all too easy to blame them. We all have baggage and everyone has a past. When you understand this about yourself and other people you'll find you have a lot more time and energy for your life.
Accept the people in your life because you made the choice to be with them
The relationships you get into are not accidental. We are generally attracted to someone who manifests something we would like to reclaim about ourselves. This is why the most confusing issues with our partners are the same as our most confusing issues with our parents, siblings or even ourselves. Life gets easier the moment we understand that these relationships are a part of our healing.